How to Release Your Fears & Tap Into Your Divine Power + Summit Recap
This week Victoria Jenn goes solo and provides an intimate recap of her major lessons learned at the #SecureTheBigBag & Wellness Summit. She also shares a very important mistake she made that will show you how to be a more vulnerable leader and will help you embrace failure as your entry point to freedom. If you have a hard time letting go of your mistakes, have difficulty giving yourself grace, or struggle with being authentic and vulnerable, this episode is for you!
Full Transcript:
Welcome back to another episode of Banking on Cultura I am your host Victoria Jenn Rodriguez and wow I'm so happy to be back with you guys I know for the last two weeks or so um I don't think I I put out an episode because I was just so consumed with the secure the big bag and wellness Summit that just went down this past weekend in New York City and it was absolutely incredible but I was not prepared y'all I was not prepared for the huge undertaking of managing the summit making sure our guests had an incredible experience making sure our sponsors had an amazing experience while also dropping episodes on the podcast um you know Banking on Cultura is now a year old a year and a month or so and so I this was kind of like the first year that the summit was really all on me and I I I didn't anticipate that it was going to be as much work as it was in terms of running the podcast and also making sure that the summit was amazing uh but here we are and I was so anxious that I wanted to like reconnect with you guys let me move this water bot I was so anxious and wanted to reconnect with you guys that I was like I don't care I don't want to even wait to go into the studio I'm GNA come to you live from the Casita from the house and touch base with you guys because I missed you and I wanted to also you know kind of give you a a recap of of what went down at the summit major Lessons Learned and also talk about um you know something something that I I have been thinking a lot about lately and wanted to share with you especially as we prepare and gear up for a new year and we think about reinvention and we think about what's coming next and we think about who we want to be and and and who we have to become in order to get these things and just really making sure that you guys are are are taking the time to give yourself Grace and also reflect and learn about yourself and this Summit was an incredible opportunity to do that for me and so I wanted to share it with you in hopes that it it inspires you and and motivates you to to do your own self-reflection and really think about the business owner the leader the friend the sister the girlfriend the boo all the things um the type of person human being that you would want to be so let's start with um the recap of the summit so you know day one was our kickoff reception at Brooklyn Chop House and it was absolutely gorgeous it was dope the venue was a vibe the music was a Vibe everything was a Vibe and I think what was very different about this Summit than in past year so this is my seventh one guys and I I believe the huge difference was I don't know something about this year just the creation the curation of people everyone just was so intentional everyone was just so welcoming and eager to help one another and and see one another and and listen to one another and and just embrace one another and I think at a time when we all are yearning for that we're yearning for Community we're yearning to be seen we're yearning to be heard and something about this year just feels like that that landed with a lot of people including me so our reception was lit it was beautiful it was gorgeous and if you haven't seen the Recaps on my social media make sure you go and check it out at I am Victoria Jenn um because I've been promoting it and you can you know for those of you who missed it you can feel like you were right there with us and you can get a Vibe for what I'm talking about so day two was our full day program we had about an eight hour program we started at 8:30 in the morning and ended at 5:00 p.m. it was a long day and it was also just a beautiful day and you know our guest did not know what was happening behind the scenes but y'all so much happened that morning um of day two that only you know people in the event planning space people who have hosted events can can really appreciate but it was just chaos and Madness and and so many things went left when we thought they were going to go right but we figured it out my team galvanized we mobilized also my speakers like everybody just stepped up in such a way where I just felt so grateful and fortunate to have all all these dope amazing people in my life who who sees an issue and it's just like V what can I do how can I help you and it was literally like an all hands on deck to make sure that day two was an experience um to remember so much so that y'all literally the morning of so first of all can we talk about how so both days I got my makeup and hair done shout out to Sheik studio uh they sponsored my hair and my makeup both on Friday and Saturday and so Saturday morning with the program starting so early in the morning at 8:30 in the morning I had to go do my hair and makeup so I had to be at the salon at 5 a.m. okay so I was at the salon 500 a.m. and I had to pressure her to make sure that I got out of there within two hours because usually it takes her three hours to do my hair and makeup and I said I can't I got to be out I got to be out in two hours so he managed to get me out within the two hours so here I am super excited I'm like yes I'm going to get there early I'm going to make sure everything is good to go even though my event planner shout out to Ashley she's a g she she had it all handled but I just am when I host events I I just have I I'm very particular and I I love to host and I need to make sure that things are set up correctly that I feel the space that I can pray over the space to just make sure that it is amazing and unfortunately your girl is driving to the venue she's literally 15 minutes from the venue mind you the venue is in New York I live in New Jersey so I'm 15 minutes from the venue and what do I remember I remember leaving my damn bra at home I left my bra at home y'all I was freaking pissed off I left my bra at home so I had to call Ashley and be like listen I'm going to get there pretty much like as soon as the program starts I have to go home because I left my bra and there was no way that I was going to be able to wear my FIT without a bra it's not cute it's not classy it it's I'm not about that life and so I had to turn my ass around go home to get my freaking bra that I left at home I was pissed and I had to do a lot of woa shout out to my little sister Rea who I actually flew in from out of town to be our videographer she did amazing she's in the car with me like just being silent because I'm just like so annoyed and I'm just like I cannot believe that I left of all things I left my freaking bra so finally I get to my house I get the bra we arrive to the venue and there's just a lot of things happening behind the scenes that I was like what the hell is going on um and I was just praying to God like God please please let us figures this out please let us get what we need to get together honey so we can make sure that this is an imaculate experience for all involved and it ends up working out it ended God came through he did his thing it was an absolutely beautiful day there were so many dope moments um from that day that I'm really really proud of like all of our speakers were amazing I the wellness component you know we've never really infused Wellness Into The Summit in previous years but this year we wanted to incorporate that element because we all just need to make sure that we're prioritizing our wellness and prioritizing our mental health and prioritizing ourselves quite frankly and making sure that we are taking the time to to love on us and to give ourselves the energy and just all of the Grace and all the things we just deserve to put ourselves first and prioritize ourselves and you know the wellness component I think really put that front and center and then the business component was just like badass I know so many women the feedback that we've been getting in has been that they have you know have had these aha moments they are more confident they feel more bold they feel more courageous they feel more like confidence they have more clarity and and that was the purpose right the purpose of the event was to help my community really see the possibilities and expose them to the possibilities and really have them um tap into a side of themselves that they didn't even know existed and and really bring out the badassery in them and really make them feel like whole you know make them feel like they have everything that they need within them in order to achieve anything that their heart desires and now they have this community and they have me to make sure that they actually get this stuff right that they actually are able to see the light at the end of the tunnel and they actually have a road mapap to see the light at the end of the tunnel you know and one of the common things that came up a lot during the summit was fear and how fear can be used as fuel or as an Achilles heel or as an indication to to to the fact that you're growing right when When We Fear when we are in moments of self-doubt when we are about to tap into the next best version of ourselves when we're about to graduate to the next version of ourselves when we're about to elevate there's always going to be fear associated with that because it's unknown territory and it also requires growth which requires vulnerability which requires you facing yourself which requires you you know stepping up and and really being a leader um and and and that's hard you know and that fear can prevent us from tapping into our potential from and it also limits us on our financial potential on our happiness and it limit Us in so many ways where if we are not mindful of how we allow fear to drive our decision making or lack of any decision making we will find ourselves kind of like in the hamster reel going round and round and still in the same position this time next year and so fear came up a lot so if you're listening to me and fear is holding you back from doing something right now I encourage you to like really get to the root cause of of what is that fear like what's really driving the fear are you afraid that you're actually going to make it are you afraid that you're actually going to make your dreams come true and if you are you're not alone like I'm afraid of those things I'm afraid that you know what if I do what happens when I do make it like am I actually going to be happy when I make it or am I going to have regrets or am I going to feel guilty right am I going to feel guilty for making it so those I think are all normal responses and reactions to you you being a human being but we have to make sure that we are allowing ourselves to feel but at the same time not allowing our emotions to drive the decisions that we make in our lives and not allowing our fear to be the core decision maker in the actions that we take or the actions that we do not take and I want to expand on this a little bit because I I learned so many valuable lessons at the summit this year here we interrupt our program to bring you this important message ooh this is really good you should know about this so I don't know about you but I've been known to procrastinate especially when things scare the hell out of me the fear alone would have me stuck overwhelmed confused and all types of self-doubt and don't even get me started on the impostor syndrome okay okay after getting laid off not once but three times honey I realized that the security blanket that I made up in my head was just an EXC because I didn't really want to bet on myself the corporate benefits that had me in that headlock girl they went out the window once my job decided that they no longer needed me it turns out that I'll save a whole nickel if I cut your salary completely the truth is the only security blanket guarantee is the one that you create for yourself in other words until you start a business you will always be at the mercy of a company's headcount and you will never have complete control over your time which means you'll be renting out your thought leadership and helping build someone else's dream instead of your own if you've been waiting for a sign this is it don't you think it's time you stop playing small and tap all the way into your power s click on the link above or below this video to learn my three-step process the exact three steps that I took to make the transition from corporate to entrepreneurship and this is helpful even if you don't know what type of business to start and have only one source of income and this is absolutely free it is my gift to you I want you to win it's winning season in fact what's that it smells like winning season okay so tap in and I'll see you inside the training let's go I think God really purposely made me learn the lessons this year that I had to learn and and one of those lessons um was you know admitting to mistakes and admitting to what some might perceive as as failure or shortcomings and and identifying ways for for me to come back from that and I me really think about leadership and the type of leader that I want to be and and I want you to to think about this think about you know think about leaders that you really admire think about leaders that you respect are they the leaders that have it all figured out are they the leaders that never make mistakes are they the leaders that never can admit to making a mistake are they the leaders that can never fall and get back up you know who are the people that you are admiring are they actually perfect or are they human and as a result of them being human you're still able to see their leadership in owning that human element of who they are you know my my health coach shout out to Maris you know he and I have these really deep deep conversations often and one of the conversations recently that that we've had is is around kind of like this Western Way this he was calling it the American way of of living of how we always have to like have this armor up and we always have to show that we have it all together and we always have to show like like almost like we're perfect like we present ourselves in this perfect way and we talk like we're perfect and and if somebody does something that upsets us it's like f them they're lost it's about me and he really challenged me to like really think about like like is that who you really want to be in this season of your life and I had to really think about that sit with it and self-reflect on it and think about okay well if I if I want to be a different type of leader if I want to be a less transactional leader if I want to be a leader that people can trust and that people are motivated and inspire ins spired by for all the reasons that matter not because I dress nice not because of my car not because of my accolades not because of my home not because of anything materialistic but because of my character because of my leadership style because of my Integrity right how do I want to be respected right and what do I want to be respected for and and that was something that I've had to reflect a lot on over the last couple of days because your girl [ __ ] up she did something that she wasn't really proud of I'm not going to go into detail here maybe maybe one day I will share it here on the podcast but something happened that I really wasn't proud of and I um and I had to really think about like okay B well well what do you want to do you know what what do you want to do like do you want to make things right right or do you want to be you know do it the American way and be like [ __ ] it it is what it is I'mma keep it moving I got to let it go I can't let those things impact me and something that my health coach helped me see Maris and I said this at the summit everybody needs a Maris like he is just like a ray of sunshine and just someone I'm so thankful for I got to bring him on the Pod let me know in the comments if I should bring him on the Pod this is the guy who has helped me lose 30 pounds he is the guy that he's like my so I don't I don't know what is the best title I can say this he's like my soul adjuster maybe because he helps me see the things that I already see but that I don't want to either admit to or I don't want to face because it's easier to protect myself and it's easier to defend myself than to actually like go through the yucky feelings of damn I really did some [ __ ] I'm not proud of of you know now now I got to go now I got to figure out how to make it right you know it's always easier to kind of like be in denial and like justify our mistakes and justify things that we're not proud of to make us feel better but are you really solving the problem um and are you really getting to the root of it or are you finding ways for you to put a pacifier on it right for some people it's drinking for some people it's partying for some people it's just being in denial and and not taking accountability right and he really challenged me to think about these things and and so yeah your girl has been in deep self-reflection over the last several days and um I'm really proud of myself I'm really proud of myself for a doing the self-reflection and B making the executive decision to say no that's not who I am that's not who I want to stand up for that wasn't okay I need to go and fix this and then taking the approach appropriate action to go and fix this which brings me back to the point of failure and failing in public you know so many women don't start a business because they're afraid so many women don't start a business or don't excel in business and or don't excel in business because they fear failing in public and so they just don't get up to bat at all they're like all right that chill in The Dugout it's safe over here it's comfortable over here I don't have to you know face My Demons over here I don't have to do the hard stuff that comes with leadership right so I rather just I rather just play the you know I rather just be in the back end I want to be in the back right I don't want to be in the front and you have to
decide how important it is for you to actually tap into your dreams really tap into your fullest potential because for you to tap into your fullest potential you're going to have to make mistakes you're going to have to fail and it's going to happen often and you want it to happen often because that is when you grow right from from this past experience I literally have felt like i' i' I've grown so much over the last several days since the summit that I'm just like wow how incredible how freeing how freeing it was to make a mistake learn from the mistake and improve from the mistake it was so freeing and and just so as I said I was just so proud of myself and so as we're going into the new year I want to challenge you guys to think about you know mistakes that you've made this year that you have decided to ignore or that you've decided to sweep under the rug and you're just like you know what get somebody else to do it i' rather not you know I already accepted it is for what it is like I challenge you to like revisit and unpack it a little bit and think about like why does it still bother you is this still lingering like what is happening and it's so crazy y'all because Yo God works in just mysterious ways and also just like when you're Soul l meaning your soul your soul is leading you in many environments and your heart is working for you and the world and and you're just in this constant flow of evolution of advancement of self of growth of of exploring of all the things like you can't hold on to things like you you can't hold on to things because you can't sleep like you're it's not going to settle well and again you might be able to pafy it with something but at the end of the day it's still going to be there it's still going to linger it's still going to come up for you at some point and it was it kept coming up for me and I was like I the American side of me and the old V was like ah [ __ ] that I don't care this is what it's going to be it is what it is but the new V the new version of V that has done so much work on herself as a leader as a friend as a partner as of all the things as a woman this new V wasn't having it she wasn't letting me be content with my old ways she wasn't letting me let go she was like no I'm not letting this go until you Rectify this I'm not letting you move on until you fix this and it was it was it was like once I surrendered and once I allowed myself to accept like oh [ __ ] like I have to switch things up this is this is not going to work this is this is not going to settle well in my soul I felt so free and I felt like this weight was lift off my shoulders and I felt so good about myself and now I don't have to think about bringing that into 2025 with me so again I challenge you to think about what are the things you've done this year that you regret what are the things you've done this year that that you failed that what are the things that you've done this year that you wish you didn't do and you wish you did it differently there's still time for you to do it differently so that you don't bring that energy and that aura into 2025 right you don't have to bring it with you you can leave it here you can leave it here you can Rectify it you can address it you can face it headon so that you're able to heal from it so that you can go into 2025 like I'm a new right a new uh clear evolved better version of you and one of the beautiful things about one of the beautiful things about leadership is and I think entrepreneurship y'all entrepreneurship will have you grow in ways you never thought possible okay entrepreneurship will have you grow in ways you never thought possible that's personally and professionally and as a leader you want to never stop growing because once you stop growing you will stop being able to provide value to your team to the people you care about to the people you love to your community you have to always want to Aspire for growth and unfortunately much of our growth comes from the lesson like unfortunately unfortunately most of the growth comes from the hard stuff comes from the ugly stuff comes from the stuff you're not proud of comes from the stuff that you wish you would have done differently comes from the stuff that you're disappointed in that is where the biggest growth is and you are strong enough to face that head on I want I want you to know that you are strong enough to face that head on you can do it you can do it so if something is on your heart that you haven't let go of this year do what you need to do over the next month and a half do what you need to do so that you're able to let it go and heal it's not even for the other person it's not for the other person you're not doing the other person a favor it's for you it's for you to grow it's for you to heal it's for you to elevate it's for you to tap into your inner voice Your Inner Essence for you to be more in tuned with you you have to set yourself free and if that means you have to be vulnerable you have to admit to your wrongs you have to you have to be human right and lead with humility then that is what it's going to have to take but I promise you once you're on that other side you're going to feel so good about yourself you're going to be so proud of yourself and you're just going to feel so light and amazing and you're going to be so happy that you did it and I want that for you I I want that for you because it is going to make you a better businesswoman it is going to make you a better partner it is going to just make you better in all facets of your life and you deserve to be free in that way you deserve to be free of the regrets you deserve to be free of the negativity you deserve to be free of the heavy weight that you might be carrying you deserve to be
free so give yourself the permission to do the ugly work give yourself the permission to do the stuff that the majority of people would not do because guess what it's easier to live in denial it's easier to deflect it's easier to point the finger at everybody else but yourself right it's easier to justify our actions
it's easier for us to justify our actions when we are judging right when we're judging when we're making assumptions and and when we are you know trying to categorize people that don't even deserve that classification that's what I'm saying that don't even deserve that classification they don't even deserve that designation they don't deserve to be in that category but you are putting them there because you're trying to justify how you feel about something because they triggered something in you and so you're trying to justify that to make yourself feel better but guess what it's going to come up for you anyway you're not going to get rid of it you're going to have to release it and I promise you once you release it you will feel so free and so much better and just love you will feel love and you'll love yourself more as a as a result of you stepping up and facing yourself anywh who this was a deep episode huh we got into the nitty-gritty but I I I wanted to share what I've experienced over the last couple of days like I was eager to share with my community I was like oh my God I got to share this I got to bring it to Banking on Cultura because I know I'm not alone in this I know I'm not alone and I know somebody needs to hear this because I needed to hear it thank God Maris was in my corner and he was able to help me get to this point and so let me be your mares let me be that voice and that reason with love of what you need to make sure you do before entering into this new year so that you can feel better so that you can feel happy and at peace all right miente by the way I did start a wait list for the summit so I'll put that in the show notes so if you miss the summit this year don't worry we're bringing it back next year so make sure to sign up to our weit list so you can be the first to know and get all the updates of what's coming we are actively planning right now for 2025 um so you want to make sure you're on that weight list we'll put it down in the show notes and yeah thank you thank you for for listening guys and and for tuning in if this episode was helpful you know the deal please leave us a revieww over on Apple rank us all the things share this with a friend if you know someone who needs to hear this message and know that I love you so much I am so grateful for you being in this community I am so so thankful to to you for being on this journey with me and and giving me Grace as I grow as a leader and I hope learn from my lessons so that you don't make the same mistakes I made or so that you know how to handle yourself in certain situations that's why I share and and that's why I try to be really authentic here on Banking on Cultura because I'm not perfect and I don't want you to think that I am and I want you to know that you're not alone and we're more alike than we are different trust and believe that and I want you to know that you're deserving you're deserving of being happy you're deserving of of being rich you're deserving of being rich both in money and in love and and you're just deserving of all the things of everything your heart desires I just want you to make sure that you are you are there to meet the moment so that you can fully take in your wins and your accomplishments and and your accolades and your greatness and all the things because you are constantly operating in this state of of gratitude abundance but self-awareness so that if you [ __ ] up you can admit that and be okay with admit it and take accountability and doing what you need to do to make it right doing what you need to do to make it right so as we go into Thanksgiving holiday if you celebrate I hope you have an amazing time Familia and you get to you get to relax and hopefully you take this with you and and you self-reflect and you just remind yourself of all the things that you are thankful for and why you are blessed and I um am sending you tons of Love am e Besitos thank you everybody I'll see you on the next episode hey guys if you enjoyed this video I'm pretty sure you're going to love the next one so make sure to click right here and tap in to the next episode.
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